Gentle Directions

The definition of gentle is having or showing a mild, kind, or tender temperament or character.
The definition of direction is the management or guidance of someone or something.

When I put the two words together, my personal definition becomes: having a kind character that guides someone. I choose the word someone rather than something because at GBOC, we work with the someones—the children.

One of the most important skills in working with children is maintaining kindness and a tender temperament. These qualities invite children into a safe space where they feel comfortable sharing their day—whether that includes accomplishments, disappointments, dreams, or ideas.

We allow children to openly express themselves without condemnation or judgment, and we avoid raising our voices when gently giving directions. This approach supports emotional safety, encourages trust, and nurtures confident communication.

During my childhood, it was not easy to share my disappointments with others. The idea that a child could be disappointed was not easily understood or accepted. The question often was, What could a child possibly know about being disappointed?

Because of this, I held many of my feelings inside, with no safe place to release them.
When we are unable to release our feelings, it opens the door to self-condemnation, self-doubt, and even depression.

Again, in my childhood, the thought of a depressed child was unheard of. The follow-up question was usually, What do they have to be depressed about?

Yet today, research tells a different story.
Per Pediatric Medicine, studies indicate a significant rise in child and adolescent depression, with U.S. cases (ages 3–17) increasing from 3.1% in 2016 to 4.0% in 2020. Approximately 18%–20% of adolescents report recent depressive symptoms. Common signs include irritability, “acting out,” and social withdrawal, with nearly 60% experiencing a recurrence within five years.

By operating with the principle of gentle direction, we create an environment where children can share openly and receive guidance that helps them process the events of their day. 

Helping children develop coping skills equips them to become emotionally resilient, self-aware, and better prepared to navigate challenges as they grow.

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