We Listen and We Don't Judge

One of the best conversations adults can have is one with children. 

During the 1960's, Art Linkletter, hosted a radio show titled, House Party, which included a segment titled, Kid's Say The Darndest Things. 

It showcased the children's candid, humorous, insightful and unfiltered responses. 

Bill Cosby and Tiffany Haddish would also host shows with this premise. 

We have experienced all of the above mentioned responses. 

Our 'check-in' time has opened us up to many concerns and issues of children.

During 'check-in' we ask them about the course of their day. Some of the children have simple days, while others have days that may be full of challenges, heroic adventures and fun.

These conversations have proven to be beneficial for us mentors.

We Listen and We Discern

The conversations give us much insight into the thinking process of each child.  It also helps us to discern what concerns them individually and as a whole. 

We can discern who and what influences them.  Whether it's the music they listen to, the games they play, or if it's from an experience, or their friends. 

We learn how they deal with emotional crisis, and conflict. 

Why is this important?

This is important because we are then able to create curriculum and lesson plans to address them without it being viewed as being 'targeted'. 

Often times we do this by creating games, art projects or viewing documentaries or movies and having a table discussion afterwards.

This helps to create a win-win situation for all of us. 

Yes, we listen and we discern. 

What have you learned lately by listening to your children or others you are in a relationship with?

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